Wolfie has lived with us for 7 years. When he arrived he had been abused by his previous owner, and it took me months to coax him out of hiding. At his best, he calmed down enough to come up to both of us in the house, sleep on the bed, and generally behave like a normally shy kitty.
Tom has always shared in feeding him though that is mostly my responsibility. Tom has never said boo to him or been at all anything but friendly. On occasion, before Sisko The Grey Terror moved in, Tom was even allowed, on special occasions, to pat him.
At this point, Wolfe has regressed so far that he won’t let Tom near him, even bearing food. Tom isn’t allowed to look at him any more. When the neighbor’s tiny dog barks, inside the neighbor’s apartment, Wolfie will flee, even if he was in the middle of eating his dinner.
Could someone explain to Wolfie that a full-sized dog walking down the driveway, inside his gate, would not be a problem? Oh, and he should totally keep sunning himself on the back staircase, because it is all mellow. As long as you are at it, get the three totally feral boys in on the discussion as well. Since the construction next door has totally destroyed their previous habitat, they now pretty much live in this yard. I’m sure they will be reassured.